How To Keep The Flames Burning In A Relationship

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How To Keep The Flames Burning In A Relationship

Creating Intimacy to Keep the Flame Burning

It is true which intimacy plus relationship are 2 quite different words. They have different meanings plus present totally different concepts. The tie which binds those to every alternative, but, is that a relationship requires intimacy to survive. Intimacy is the substance that allows the persons concerned inside a relationship to enjoy every different all more.

Intimacy is defined because the condition of being private or individual. This encompasses everything which involves close organization or familiarity. Two individuals are intimate whenever they can share with every different the innermost plus many important components of themselves without any inhibition. It is just through creating intimacy which 2 folks can recognize every additional by plus by.

The inability of individuals concerned inside relationships to create intimacy results to the creation of distance. This really is the cause why creating intimacy is significant even within the begin. How to create intimacy is anything which every individual included inside a relationship could recognize how to do, for creating intimacy is the foundation which might forge the connection between 2 folks n a relationship more firmly than ever.

Creating intimacy involves consistent attention for 1 another as well as the relationship itself. It additionally involves regard for every another as well as the relationship inside certain. Regular, healthy verbal correspondence is usually an significant element inside establishing openness, plus bodily contact is because imperative inside creating intimacy plus nearness because alternative factors.

Creating intimacy furthermore involves standard expression of caring plus tenderness thus which every 1 inside the relationship can recognize how significant he or she is to the additional. And because the expression of feelings is equally telling, it becomes the most significant factors which might create intimacy plus bind persons inside a relationship together.

Because creating intimacy signifies creating familiarity plus openness, it really is a should for individuals concerned inside a relationship to become honest plus simple with every additional. Saying plus doing what exactly is honest plus honest for both of them might assist a lot, plus popularity of every other’s character plus characteristics might foster an understanding involving the 2 of them like no alternative.

To create intimacy, folks inside a relationship could have an learning of how their families of origin might affect the relationship itself. This really is necessary, too, inside learning the behavior of every additional inside connection with all the ambiance he or she grew up inside. However, it happens to be significant for couples to take time to hear to what every different thinks plus feels. Living inside the present plus envisioning a existence together inside the future might create chemistry which they might both utilize to become less separate people yet because a team willing to battle all odds together.

Lastly, it usually is significant for individuals worried regarding creating intimacy to advertise the individual development of 1 another. It should usually be remembered which those associated inside relationships exist to complement every different inside each method. The relationship is the medium that allows folks to discover this easy truth. Creating intimacy signifies sharing one’s own individual with their partner the greatest potential technique.

People’s inability to create intimacy in almost any form of relationship creates distance, the worm capable of eating the union gradually away. It is usually significant for those included inside relationships to test their ideal efforts to create intimacy, considering it happens to be what might keep the flame burning for very a while.


  1. Noe R May 31, 2014 10:13 pm

    How come when you are first in a relationship your man is head over heels for you? How come after time, he is just blah!! How do you rekindle that flame? I wish my man was still all over me, crazy in love. Not just there, not just so blah
    we have sex still, a lot of it. we get along. all is good. but just no flame, just the same routine. i want the flame back. the crazy, head over heels, can’t get enough of eachother feeling

  2. Shay H June 1, 2014 3:35 am

    I’m worried that my girlfriend is getting bored of me we have been together 4 months only 17 she is 17 next month is there anything u can suggest that might get her attention?

  3. Moore, Ron June 1, 2014 8:41 am

    Hi all just wanna know if this is normal after a few years does your relationship loose that initial spark you had when u first got together like do u have less sex less I love yous all the time is this normal?

  4. Duke June 1, 2014 7:42 pm

    We dont hold hands hardly ever hug and im lucky to get a peck on the lips before work. Weird thing is, sex is still great. Just in between. Whats the deal with that??? Advice please.
    We still have sex on a daily basis but its become very routine. I go with it because its the only time i get affection from him

  5. Mr SoLo DoLo June 1, 2014 7:42 pm

    None of us wants to become lukewarm, do we. We don’t want to follow, and
    be on the wrong path.

    I hope we don’t want this for others, either!!! That would be very wrong.
    We want others to go the right way also.

    So, if we share here how we keep ourselves …close…to the Lord, what
    we actually DO in our lives to ..well, make it real to ourselves,
    then others we hope will read all these ideas and perhaps grow
    along with us.

    So often, don’t we find what actually is not real or lasting to become
    all too real? Daily things, pressures, demands upon us, not living up
    to some perceived standard, just …not measuring up sometimes,
    or other things, things breaking down, personal relationships going awry,
    and so on and so on.

    How to keep the flame burning within? How to show our light in a way that
    is helpful.

    This is the question I pose today.


  6. floydian8717 June 1, 2014 11:35 pm

    Me and my boyfriend of 7 months just moved in together. Its been almost a month now but I already feel like things have changed between us. I also am able to see a lot of things in him that I didnt before. He has so much pride, and when we argue or disagree on something he is able to just shine me off like I am not even there, and that totally irritates me. I end being the one approaching him on the issue just so we can talk things out and I am getting tired of it. I have told him this, and we have talked about it, but for the men, what is a good way to get him to start stepping up and swallowing that pride of his to make an effort when he sees I am upset? I also notice our sex life went from every day to now once or twice a week, and I like a lot of affection. I feel like I am the one always going to hold him or kiss him. What can I do to let him know he needs to keep that flame burning or I am going to get bored without being mean? Any advice would be appreciated

  7. Gabriel Kenney June 2, 2014 11:14 pm

    Out of sight out of mind. What should I do to make her not to forget me ?

  8. white man June 3, 2014 1:27 am

    Damn Laid Back gave me the word to write a poem about.


    Fences placed
    Enclosing guests
    Channel flocks
    Minds unlocked

    Frictions’ ashes
    Spoiled dances
    Out of step
    Out of haste

    Trampled games
    Sparks of shame
    Led to the slaughter
    Passion hotter

    Fire burns
    Never learn
    Never turn

    Just obey

  9. Noe R June 3, 2014 10:55 am

    From experience, when it starts really quick, is that a bad sign? If there is high amounts of chemistry, where you can sense them looking at you, you feel something when you pass them, like the air gets thick.

    Is this more lust than anything? Hormones?

    I have had crushes in the past, but nothing like this with this guy. When we look at each other, it is so intense. I don’t even know how to handle it most the time.

    Is it best to pass this kind of intense chemistry, where it’ll die quickly?

  10. Cliffy N June 3, 2014 10:55 am

    How do you keep a relationship alive? So your boyfriend/ girlfriend is still excited and interested. I understand that its not going to be a bed of roses everyday just want to know what to do as on occasional surprise to keep the relationship ticking- Ideas please :)

    I have been with my boyfriend for a while now and i am still very happy and much in love yet were past the honeymoon phase and i still want to keep it alive and exciting- any ideas to keep the flame burning?

    what would you do?

  11. stingerms June 3, 2014 10:56 am

    Me and my boyfriend of 7 months just moved in together. Its been almost a month now but I already feel like things have changed between us. I also am able to see a lot of things in him that I didnt before. He has so much pride, and when we argue or disagree on something he is able to just shine me off like I am not even there, and that totally irritates me. I end being the one approaching him on the issue just so we can talk things out and I am getting tired of it. I have told him this, and we have talked about it, but for the men, what is a good way to get him to start stepping up and swallowing that pride of his to make an effort when he sees I am upset? I also notice our sex life went from every day to now once or twice a week, and I like a lot of affection. I feel like I am the one always going to hold him or kiss him. What can I do to let him know he needs to keep that flame burning or I am going to get bored without being mean? I dont want to be an old boring couple!

  12. shahrukh June 3, 2014 4:39 pm

    My and my girlfriend of 3 months are losing the flame. When I text her I haven’t been getting that “feeling”. Not over the phone ethier. I would hate to break up with her and I would loose it if I saw her with another guy. What should I do to keep this flame burning. Btw I have been sick for a week and we haven’t kissed or hangout although I’ve seen her at school. Do you think this is what’s causing this?

  13. Dark_LovexXx June 3, 2014 10:32 pm

    Relationship over? What should I do?
    I have asked the same darn question several times and still have not come to either an answer that I like or an answer within myself.
    My ex and I had a really bad fight back in April – we were visiting the place we were to move to…
    He continued living in our house with me for 2 months, making plans to move and then left without me.
    We fought, made up, but didn’t get back together. We even had so much better sex that ever in the relationship. He has told me that he still loves me but that I can’t come to the place that he moved to for a while. He wants to be friends, he says that I’m “mostly” still the only girl in the world for him. He says “He wants to do something else, he wants to meet his neighbors.” When I ask him if we can get back together he sometimes says “It’s not time yet” and “We need some space from each other after what happened.”
    I feel like now that all the bills are paid and we are completely cut apart – maybe he would stop contacting me. But he, after some nice e-mails about the bills and his life has now one week ago texted me a “How are you and your dog?” text and then when I didn’t answer he sent a picture of dogs that remind him of my dog at a concert he went to (we went to lots of concerts together). I have not responded for a week, he has not sent me anything.
    I love him so much. He lives very far away.
    I am not lonely anymore, I am not feeling insecure in any way. I have good friends and a nice room mate. We just had such a strong, passionate love. I am so disappointed that it is ending like this.
    Does anyone have any specific advice as to A.) When should I respond to his e-mailed picture? B.) How should I respond to him? in order to maybe keep him thinking about me and maybe some day get to enjoy the strong connection that we had… and still seem to have?
    Please do not give me the same advice that everyone is giving… “you need to get over it” bla bla bla I know that!!!
    Thank you :)

  14. Bryan J June 4, 2014 6:57 am

    What is your experience and what makes you do that ? Why did you end it and how ?

  15. sethburger June 4, 2014 10:06 pm

    me and my fiance have been dating for a year and 3 months and i want to know how to spice up our relationship so its not predictable. i want to know some ways physically, mentally, emotionally, and sexually. All advice will be appreciated and best answer will receive 10 points.
    juss to let yall kno i AM not a girl im a man for those who answered this as if i was a woman

  16. opurt June 4, 2014 10:09 pm

    My girlfriend and I have became a long distance relationship about a month ago. At first it was amazing. Talked about everything and anything. This lasted about 3 weeks into the long distance relationship. Its been about a week since we last flirted…

    This whole week and a little bit of last week she’s been super MIA and it’s been bumming me out. It got to the point where we just didn’t talk for 4 days straight, so I gave her space. Then last night she randomly messaged me saying whats up and all that. Turns out shes been really busy doing college apps and her friend died from a car accident. And she wasn’t meaning to ‘ignore’ me. I asked her why she didn’t tell me this, and she responded that “she didn’t want to” although she did tell my mutual friend.

    If something like this happened to me the person I’d love to talk about it with would be my gf, why would she just keep it from me? ALSO should I surprise her with flowers or a card to cheer her up or should I just leave it, since she didn’t want to tell me in the first place?

  17. PillowMan1234 June 8, 2014 4:29 pm

    What are some terms that go with a casual relationship?

  18. Jeracoo L June 9, 2014 9:22 am

    I am 26 years old and have like a guy since Feb. We both liked each other, but he came out of a long relationship. We quickly became “friends with benefits” without me even realising it. (we didn’t have sex though) . When I eventually asked him where I stand, he said that he likes me but wasn’t ready. I then stopped seeing him for a couple of months. In July we met up again, and the spark was still there. This time I was more careful. We’ve been friends since, (without the benefits) and of late he has been the one who keeps telling me how much he cares for me and likes me. He is now the one sending txts without me having to do it first and he comes to visit me (live in different towns). Ususally I was the one making the effort. This wk he basically told me he knows what he did to me was wrong, but he really likes me and is ready for a relationship. I now find myself being a bit scared. I did put up a wall against being hurt again, can I take the wall down?

  19. Roar me R June 10, 2014 12:17 am

    aside from love and trust, what do you do to keep the loves flames burning? It seems to be that I ran out of ideas…

  20. Phillip123 June 10, 2014 7:57 am

    I’m a cancer and a guy i like is a cancer.
    Is that a bad match?

  21. isk8at818 June 10, 2014 5:36 pm

    things doesnt work out as i wanted to be …as nowdays time has change…we have come to critical point where we cannot make our owm decision …things keeps on peace of mind…everything is drifting apart n melting away like those of burning candle…n keep on fluctuatin like its flames when it burns

  22. Matthew June 10, 2014 9:57 pm

    seems greatest comdy are about relationship ..and worst mistake in world is relationship ..whats your opinion about relationship …

  23. Death Knight June 11, 2014 3:26 am

    Im a Aries girl dating a cancer male and I just want to how others are different and similar to us. Please comment and thanks ( :

  24. Bryan J June 13, 2014 12:53 am

    Ive been in an open relationship for about a year now. Anyways, we are starting to fall emotionally in love with each other. It feels great to know that he loves me but Im so scared of commitment. He told me that he is okay with an emotional relationship and so am I. Should I be worried about this kind of relationship?

  25. Tyler H June 15, 2014 2:16 pm

    we’ve been together for 5 years. we just had a baby 4 months ago. we’ve been doing alot of fighting lately. we love each other very much and we want to be happy with each other. i know this sounds corny, but our flame is burning out. lol. know what i mean? what can we do?

  26. Harry June 16, 2014 2:48 am

    What is a female led relationship? Is it beneficial or harmful to a relationship?

  27. Coffee t June 17, 2014 11:10 am

    I mean, a emotionally/verbally abusive relationship.

  28. toast June 18, 2014 4:06 am

    My guy friend and I have been together for 2 years,we both been working very hard business wise. I feel like he need more time for each other. I’ve asked him to take nice get a way trip just for the two of us. But he says he’s too tired.I asked him to take a trip to Florida and he said yes for one weekend and canceled It does have to be expensive just something nice as a coouple what can I do ?I want the relationship to be refreshed like when we first met?

  29. Brian June 18, 2014 5:09 am

    My bf and I have been together for 2 years, and we definitely love each other. However, our relationship has turned rather stale, and it’s mostly because my bf lacks passion…passion for me, for life, for pretty much anything. He’s very sweet, my family loves him, and he loves me more than anything. He just totally lacks motivation; he’d rather spend all day in his pajamas playing video games than making real plans.

    The problem is, the spark has died. There’s no fun, no risk, no mystery. I don’t want to be trapped for the rest of my life in a stale relationship where security and “comfort” outweigh romance and real happiness.

    I know everyone goes through this in a relationship; I just want to know how you know when you get to the point where love isn’t enough to make you happy? What should I do? What if my efforts to motivate him fail?

  30. Praveen June 19, 2014 10:14 am

    I really look forward to hearing some educated answers from both female and male participants. Please contribute to my problem with meaningful suggestions.

  31. kamikami June 22, 2014 7:36 am

    Usually we enjoy discovering as much as we can about the things we truly care about! If it’s our favorite football team , we’ll read and article that helps us keep up with how they are doing? If it’s cooking then we turn on to those channels that share the best grilling techniues or dessert recipes!

    When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman he studies her. He likes , dislikes, habits and hobbies.
    Women and men seem to sometimes fade out here after time! We discover our price or princess is flawed and imperfect.

    Good understanding produces favor don’t you think?

    How do you keep the flames burning?

  32. Erfan June 25, 2014 2:05 am

    What is a good book that can teach me how to improve my relationship and be a better gf. Preferably written by psychiatrists

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