Internet Relationships: Are They Really Cheating?

by futurowoman

Online Relationships: Are They Really Cheating?

Does a spouse, spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend spend technique too much time found on the computer? If they are doing plus in the event you never understand what they are doing, you are thinking when the noticeable alternative is having an online relationship. Unfortunately, online relationships are usually viewed differently, nevertheless which doesn’t mean which they can’t be considered cheating.

When it comes to relationships which develop online, there are usually 2 sides to the story. The initially side is the fact that of the cheater or the individual carrying found on the affair. Should you ever catch a substantial different having an online relationship, they might claim it isn’t certainly cheating. This really is considering occasionally a bodily meeting not occurs. So, basically, a partner has not kissed or had bodily sex with all the individual at the additional end of the computer.

The next side of the story, where online relationships are worried, is the side of the spouse, spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend whom catches their partner performing inappropriately online. For starters, it happens to be significant to learn which various people today don’t only speak online. There are social networking sites, dating sites, plus additional synonymous sites which create it simpler for web consumers to satisfy up with every additional. Simply considering you’re told a bodily meeting didn’t happen, it refuses to indicate you are getting the truth. In fact, a meeting can have been planned right about the corner.

In keeping with watching psychological matters within the viewpoint of those that are being “cheated,” about, it is actually significant to look at the damage caused. Phone sex is a prevalent activity for couples inside extended distance relationships. This can be occurring or it can be performed online. Despite the truth which bodily contact has nonetheless not been prepared, wrong actions continue to be being done. Plus, whether or not sexy or seductive emails are truly the only thing exchanged, it may nonetheless hurt. For various people, psychological matters is really because painful plus because heart breaking.

So, do we think which the spouse, spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend is having an wrong relationship online. If you do, there are a quantity of procedures to take to receive answers. For starters, try to enter the computer space. If it is very secured, there is a advantageous signal which anything wrong is going about. Next, whenever we enter the area, region your focus found on the computer screen. Does the partner instantly change what exactly is appearing found on the screen? Next, approach them, because in the event you intend to provide them a hug or perhaps a kiss. Towards the bottom of the screen ought to be a task bar. This bar will provide we info about programs which are open, including pornographic sites, movie players, so forth.

If we think which the partner is having wrong relationships online, it really is a wise decision to initially consider the actions. Unfortunately, several people are thus amazed whenever they are doing catch what exactly is happening which they don’t understand how to act. Be prepared. Do you need to limit computer utilize, do away with the computer completely, take a break, or completely cut ties? There are a amount of advantages to having a set program inside destination before we confront the cheating partner.

Remember which online relationships could frequently develop into over only a limited flirty emails here plus there.


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  1. fattiemanny June 6, 2014 8:12 am

    Would you have considered cybersex with someone outside a relationship or marriage to be cheating back in 1996?

    Keep in mind, this was some fifteen years ago when the Internet was still in its developing stages and the idea of two people connecting through a computer, regardless of age, sex and location, with or without the possibility of meeting in person for sex or otherwise, was far less common than it is now. It’s still debatable whether one considers it infidelity, but most, if not all can agree that the act alone is disrespectful to the partner.

    Personally, I think any kind of sexual talk with someone, other than ones partner or spouse, whether it be by phone or computer, or in person, has always been cheating, regardless of the intention to meet in person for real sex. The chat alone, and any exchange of inappropriate photos or video broadcasts, are enough to demonstrate intend to engage in lewd behavior. It wouldn’t even matter if the cheater and “other person” were in love with each other and it certainly wouldn’t matter if the person on the other end was real or not.

  2. nmlpc June 6, 2014 4:03 pm

    I have been a Chat geek for 4 years now and had a Virtual Commitments,
    Cheated, Fooled, Played around and JACKASS.
    I am a 17 year old female and i never had a boyfriend in real life..REAL LIFE .. i never had one. i feel so jealous seeing couples on the mall, Park and everywhere, its like i am the only one who doesnt have a boyfriend. I am not desperate to have one but .. i’ved been searching for the right one in the internet / chat but every time i date them they keep on saying ” your pretty, your gorgeous , your beautiful ..when i realize that whys that no one asking me on a date on real life?! i feel so insecure and outcast.
    let me describe myself to you : Geek, *wears eyeglasses and retainers* , loves Arts and , anime hairstyle , Black hair *i am asian* Brown eyes , a bit chubby and a Boyish type of girl.
    No matter what i do or change myself.. its nothing.
    sometimes i thought to myself why is that in real life relationship it gets last longer than virtual?! since i never had a real life relationship, i want to experience it .. I need Opinions and Suggestions .. i dont know what to do.. this is my first time asking here in Yahoo Answers. TT^TT

  3. zigg3ns June 8, 2014 1:30 am

    Me and my husband have been together now for 5 years and married now for 1 we have a 2 month old boy & i recently discovered that he has been talking with other women on the internet and chatting with them trying to get to know them and then i went even further back and realized that he has been doing it throughout the entire course of our relationship he is my first love and first everything (if you know what i mean) i have confronted him about it and he said that he didnt think it was cheating because he never met face to face with them. He says he wont do it again and that he does not want to lose me but what goes through my head is that it was only 9 months ago that he did this. I just feel so hurt, all i can see is the things he wrote to these girls and how he told them their pics are beautiful & such…&here i am worried that i would not be able to give him a son ( i was having medical problems), i dont know if i can forgive him am i overreactting?
    Me and husband spoke about it he still does not understand why i am still thinking about what happed….So i ask…He and i have been together for 5 years i went against my family to be with him, but he has been looking online in the personals and talking with these women and JUST stopped 9 months ago. Is it safe to say he cheated on me our entire relationship?

  4. Joe M June 8, 2014 4:35 am

    Do you think by talking to someone of the opposite sex online is, cheating? I mean like talking to them every day or almost every day? Talking to them about very personal things. Before it gets to anything like cyber sex… is it still cheating having an emotional relationship?

  5. uberfailz June 8, 2014 4:29 pm

    I asked this guy out. He said he would give me his number but he “couldn’t remember it”.
    I later found out he had a internet boyfriend and I decided not to take him on a date cause that would be cheating.
    What is your opinion of internet relationships?

  6. Johnky J June 8, 2014 10:57 pm

    If u met someone on a chat then she met some other guy on a chat and always talks to him and is married to him on facebook would she be cheating on u?

  7. Xbox Gamer June 9, 2014 4:00 am

    I mean with someone that you actually met online, and you ‘dated’ online before meeting in person? If so, how did you meet them? Would you say that an online relationship is just as fulfilling as a ‘real life’ relationship?

  8. Gabriel Kenney June 9, 2014 8:37 am

    IThe mail is sex based emails. That he keeps doing even though he promised never to do it again.He had been to get professional help for this for 8 months now And now Im right back wear i started, broken hearted and feeling like the QUEEN OF STUPID!!!!!!!!!!! ANY ONE OUT THERE PLEASE SEND ME ADVISE. THANKS

  9. Mackenzie P June 9, 2014 9:22 am

    Can two people, whom are married to other people have an affair over the internet w/ each other? Would you consider them to be just friends? Yet never knew each other until then. They didn’t tell each other spouses about the other. Would you consider that cheating? You, other spouse, who found out about the internet relationship, how would you feel?
    First, I’m not doing this I have morals. I take my vows seriously.
    This was done to me. He (ex husband) still thinks he didn’t cheat. After 5 yrs. I divorced his ass. I broke into his e-mail, and caught him. I just wanted to see what the public thought, especially other men. I love it. :) Please keep them coming.
    I have no problem w/ having friends of the oppisite sex. My husband now (4 yrs) and I have plenty of friends same and oppisite sex. Yet we have no secrets. He chats to an old high school sweetheart on line. Thats fine w/ me, why because I know about it. Just like I tell him about things. It honesty. Do I need to know everything he does that day, no, but he tells me out of respect and same goes for myself. Plus it keeps communication flowing through our relationship. Thats what was missing in my last marriage, Respect & Communication. That may have been both of our faults. However, thats still gives no one the right to cheat. They should ask to walk.

  10. gail C June 9, 2014 9:22 am

    Ok. I’ve been with my boyfriend 2 years and the first year was a long distance relationship. Well I’ve been living with him about a year now and I got curious and checked his yahoo messanger one time and found that he had been talking sexual to all these chics on the internet the whole time we were in different states and while I was here. Long story short, we talked about it and he said he would quit. Besides the messanger, there were texts on his phone from other chics calling them baby and asking for pics. That’s his two main things- pics and baby. Well I was a virgin when I met him so I figured that could be why but after I lost my virginity to him he continued to do it. I know a lot of ppl say guys do it out of boredom or immaturity but he’s 34. I just saw him text someone and say please talk to me but when I asked who he was talking to he said no one and that he didn’t even text anyone. Lied right to my face. I gave up my whole life to be with this man because I thought it would be a better life than what I had. But looking back now, I had college that I could walk to, I had friends to hang out with it, and family nearby I could go visit. But I was living with a bunch of alchoholics so I saw this as a way out, I guess and thought things would be better. Now, the only person I know here is him and my aunt and I stay at home most of the time and college was online until we lost internet. I just turned 21 and reality sunk in that this is my life now. But I don’t think I can handle all this online and text cheating. He doesn’t think its cheating because he’s not actually doing anything but it is to me. It hurts me and I feel like its never going to end. What can I do to make this stop? Or is there just no hope with someone like him?
    Also, I forgot to mention that he is in the military and is deploying in may of this year which is why I’m kinda conflicted.

  11. sick_mick_101 June 10, 2014 7:57 am

    if someone dates someone on the internet they have never seen, only heard on the phone and seen pics of , if they also date another person on the internet does that make them a cheater or not?
    Is it a real relationship even tho its through phone calls and the internet?

  12. Taylor G June 10, 2014 9:57 pm

    Well, I know what it is but I just don’t know WHAT it is haha makes sense huh? Lol. But when we say “I’m in a relationship” is it like a special connection you share with your partner or something? And when someone cheats on u (I’ve been cheated on with 3 other girls) we get upset. Is it like were jelous someone else is sharing that special relationship with them?
    And I know I sound stupid. That’s why I’m asking strangers on the Internet haha

  13. Jon P June 11, 2014 3:45 am

    My friend has been in an internet relationship for a year and a half now. The relationship was going good until she found out that he was cheating a while back with numerous girls, now she has trouble trusting him but the relationship is going good now. He says he’s not cheating and she’s trying to trust him. She doesn’t want to leave him and he’s always begging her back when she has doubts about the relationship. She’s moving there with him in about 7-8 months. What should she do? I don’t want to tell her my opinion yet but I think she should just do what she feels is right.

  14. Superman June 11, 2014 2:02 pm

    Well this is the story… I play an online game, where i met a (real, confirmed through a skype call) girl
    It was three days ago. She has a boyfriend, but the first night we talked through facebook with secret accounts and while we were talking she wanted to have online sex with me through the chat… I didn’t know what to do, so i just let myself go and we did it. The next day we played and talked like normal, but a thought came to my mind… Why did we do that? Why did she want to have online sex with me?
    So today i asked her, and she said she doesn’t want to talk about it
    What should i do now, just ignore it and move on or try to make her tell me?
    Thanks in advance

  15. floydian8717 June 11, 2014 11:01 pm

    okay I never talked to anyone online b4 until Nov when I met this guy online and hes just a friend, and soon after we met he broke up with his gf I helped him through his break up with his gf, and he helped me with relationship poblems, well, we talked everyday until mid Jan daily, he was like someone I could go to for anything. Then one of our convos got sexual (which hadn’t happened before) and then like a week later we had a huge fight and falling out and he refused to talk to me and him and his ex got back together. Which was sad cuz he was a good friend and I kinda felt like I loved him like a friend tho. Well soon after I got a boyfriend. Well two weeks ago him and I started talking again, which was great cuz I feel I want him as a friend. I found out his gf had known about me, even tho we were just friends, and she hated me, so we decided that she shouldnt know we made up. At the time when I contacted him again I just had an argument with his bf, and it turned out he just had an argument with his gf so it was kinda like timing, and all that day we were flirting like crazy then well we both made up with our bf and gf, so we talked and were like, we got to be sure to keep this stricktly friendship, which we did and we stayed talking which is great.. Well, last night though we started talking and I mentionedsome sexual problems between my boyfriend and I, just asking his oppinions on things, and somehow it went from that to being sexual again between us..and afterwards we were like, this is akward, and like we agreed from now on were just friends, and never to be like that again, and that we needed to respect each others partners and both of us were being bad a bf and gf, werent sure if it was cheating or not cuz it was just online and I dont feel it was cheating, but I felt horrible cuz my bfs out of town and I had him on txt as I talked to my friend online..I love my boyfriend so much and I would never want to destroy that, and he loves his girlfriend so much too but we both knew if they found out what happened they wouldnt like it..and I want my friendship with this guy online, but Im having trouble keeping it strictly friendship, and Im scared well have a huge falling out again if we can’t keep it stricktly friendship. How can I maintain both, and keep my boundries, both these relationships mean..I feel horrible today though and I just want my boyfriend to come home cause I love him so much, he is my world and my everything. Thank you, megan.

  16. Erin June 13, 2014 6:10 am

    i am in love with a man accross the country. he and i are married. we do not want to cheat, but we both love each other. we have each others photos, and he calls me everyday, we are not kids, but mature adults, who are in a daze never meeting or touching each other. we have not discused meeting, because we live thousands of miles away. he is unhappy in his marraige, and i also, internet is also new for us. is it terrible for us to have a relationship like this, and sometimes have phone sex, because we need each other so much, please give us some clues on what to do. thank you

  17. veemodz June 15, 2014 9:45 am

    I have a “GF” on the internet and i was wondering if i can have a internet “GF” and a real “GF” both?? I only have the internet one, but i was just curius? thx.

  18. Krazy Bob June 15, 2014 11:20 am

    I have been talking to this woman in this chat room for over a year now. I feel really connected to her, despite never seeing her. We are officially an online couple. We chat every single day on msn, skype, or yahoo. We have video chatted on skype before. She lives 6 hours away so i can’t visit her yet.

    So one day i went into the chatroom we always go to. She was calling some other guy a sweetheart and she said muah to him. I got really jealous. She told me to not to take it seriously. I tried ignoring her, but she called me 5 times today. How do i forget about what she did, and should i forgive her. I don’t know if our relationship with last. This is the same woman who i want to spend the rest of my life with, but she just broke my heart.

  19. Sophia C June 15, 2014 2:00 pm

    If you have been with your boyfriend for 7 years and you get a hunch there is something up with him and snoop in his e-mail (totally invading his space, I know! but I had a gut feeling to check it!) and you find out that in spirts throughout 2 years he was seeking out pretty women on the internet would you freak out? I confronted him and he said he just wanted to see what other women thought of him and it was harmless???? (he swapped pics of coarse) WOULD YOU LEAVE HIM? 27 years of this, who knows what else he’s done or pursued. He says there is no other way to spice up the relationship that I need to do or change and its not me or the relationship that needs a change… and now I’m insecure… He claims he loves me and to please not leave him…bla bla… but really, this has taken up a lot of my life…continue with the investment of the relationship and take the risk of him staying this way or throw a way 7 years.I could go both ways right now.. HELP, THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME!

  20. RuMKilleR June 17, 2014 10:37 am

    I’ve been getting to know this guy online and he’s really great.
    We pretty much love each other and some ppl say that’s dumb.
    please don’t be rude.

  21. Heath June 20, 2014 12:41 pm

    By that I mean Long and Short Distance relationships, for example my best friend is dating a guy that is 2 years above, they see each other everyday in school and talk on msn but apart from that they don’t see each other at all, they haven’t done anything yet- hug,kiss etc.The guy’s really nice and lives a couple of streets away from me, we’re quite close And he’s okay about meeting me but not my best friend?!

    I reckon that’s a bit stupid and I Wouldn’t call that a Relationship at all.


  22. forahobby June 22, 2014 3:29 am

    Would you consider online dating and soliciting descreet relationships cheating in a marriage?
    My husband has online dating sites asking for discreet meetings, he has an alternative email to receive responses and his myspace has sent messages to meet for drinks and has been contacting his ex who still loves him. He claims nothing has happened. But isn’t the planning enough to consider it cheating? I am very confused.

  23. Kaylla June 22, 2014 7:43 am

    Do you think we as a human race are meant to have a committed relationship, or do you think our instinct as animals are to be with as many people as possible to spread our seed? Do you think that’s why so many marriages and relationships fail, and people cheat?

  24. dubmecrazy3 June 24, 2014 8:37 am

    I’m in a very compromising situation and I need advice as soon as possible. I am 15. I’m a girl. I met a boy online about a month and a half ago. We have texted everyday since then. He is 17, he lives across the country from me. 
    Before you freak out, please be opened minded about this. We became good friends. He has depression and anxiety and he sees a therapist and he has never had a girlfriend before.

    I have had boyfriends and I’m mentally stable. He likes me and I really care about him and his well being. We decided to be boyfriend and girlfriend even though we have never met and we have talked on the phone and done webcam and such, I do believe he is who he says he is. I believe he is 17, I’ve done webcam with him and his friends. Anyway, we’ve been doing a boyfriend girlfriend thing and we talk all the time. 
    At first I didn’t think it was serious at all, I knew I shouldn’t be doing it. But eventually I got to liking the attention and the support he gave me. So I stayed with him until now.

    Last night I had a panic attack thinking about our relationship. I am so afraid that he will be unstable after I break up with him, he thinks we will be together for a long time, he says he loves me. But really, I know he’s just infatuated because he’s never had a girlfriend before and a girl has never liked him much before.

    I started freaking out and thinking what the hell am I doing?! I don’t know this kid at all. Why am I doing this? This is only going to lead to trouble. 
    But I have the hardest time with letting things go. I feel like it’s my responsibility to make everyone happy and I feel like I’m a bad person if I just leave him. I really do like him, we’ve became good friends. He’s nice to talk to. But he thinks so serious about us. He says I’m his best friend and he wants to marry me and have kids. I don’t want any of that. I’ve told him many times of my plans for the future and I do not plan to be married. I also told him we will never be able to meet, most likely. And our relationship will never work out. I know it won’t but I still want him right now for support.

    I know it’s pathetic, it’s awful and I shouldn’t be doing this but the other half of me says it’s okay. I can be his friend and have an online relationship to make him happy and try to help him with his depression and I will break it off when it’s time. But I’m not sure. I’m so worried about it and I don’t know if it’s a good thing or a bad thing to be doing.

    What do you think? 
    I’ve made online friends before, but what should I do? 

  25. Jenna June 24, 2014 11:28 am

    I apologize for the length, but I need to be specific. I started dating the perfect girl senior year, right before i went off to college across country. We lost our virginity to each other and I its now been three years together, though only summers and breaks spent fully together. During that time, I went through a rough patch were I was extremely depressed, with academic stresses and lack of physical gratification. I turned to drinking on weekends and ended up cheating on her on four separate one night stands. I also tried smoking cigarettes and weed for a while to put off the stress and guilt. I have never told my gf this, and the last time I cheated was 8 months ago at the end of last school year. Over the summer I had a spiritual conversion and turned my life around for God. But I couldn’t get the courage to tell her until now. This by no means justifies it, but with full sincerity every time I cheated it was never emotional, rather solely for physical gratification. I’ve carried the guilt every time it happened but alcohol made the guilt more tolerable. I’ve given up cheating, drinking in excess, and now I need to “let the truth set me free”. But is telling her worth risking it all, when I am confident it won’t happen again and we’ve talked about getting married? And if I should confess, would it be better to say I only had sex with one other girl? Because it is already going to crush her emotionally, and I wouldn’t blame her if she broke it off, wouldn’t that be better than admitting all six times it happened? I’m risking it all to be honest, but can’t I save her that deepened humiliation? Please help me!

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